Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Abusive Wives


Because the New NAAFA is for men I, Fat Bastard, decided to break new ground and publish are article about the abusive wife/girlfriend/fiancee. Men get abused as much as women get abused but men rarely have anyone to turn to for help.

Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD
Enter Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

It takes the special insight of a woman, a real womanly woman, to break down in logical terms just how cruel evil and nasty some bitches can be. Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD hits the nail on the head. You may be asking how does this apply to fat men. It doesn't, Most of us surf porn, eat and beat off for our pleasure. We know what a hassle most women can be and  even though sheep can't cook Hardees can. Sure, all men would like a woman like Tara J. Palmatier, sanity is damn sexy but the chances of finding a sane women especially one who's fat are slimmer than an anorexic super model.


My advice is to all men. If you don't like being fat that's fine. If you are married to a hot woman who is sane that's great but for the rest of you they make porn, hookers and strippers for a reason and fast food is not just for fat girls.

The following article and quiz was created by the lovely and erudite Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD


Is She a Crazy Bitch? A Quiz by Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

This isn’t a rhetorical question. If you’ve asked yourself more than once, “Is my girlfriend/wife/fiancee a crazy bitch?” as a clinical psychologist, I’m here to tell you the answer is, “Yes. Diagnostically speaking, she may very well be a crazy bitch.

A ‘crazy bitch’ insidiously makes you feel like the unstable, angry person. You soon doubt your interpretation of events and experiences. In lots of cases, this type of woman may have a personality disorder, such as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or Antisocial Personality Disorder or some combination of the Cluster B disorders. In other cases, they may not qualify for diagnoses, but it doesn’t really matter. Abusers are highly resistant to change regardless of whether they have a personality disorder or not. 

Here’s a quiz to find out if your wife, girlfriend or ex is an abuser:
  • Does she fly into rages without warning over relatively trivial matters like a web page loading too slowly?
  • Are you always the scapegoat/bad guy whenever she’s frustrated, disappointed or just plain bored?
  • Do her friends (that is, if she has any) describe her as a “drama queen?”
  • Does she describe herself as a drama queen? If so, congrats. You found one with a modicum of self-awareness.
  • Is her lipstick a little too red? Is it applied like theater makeup and a tad crooked?
  • Did sex begin with an earth shattering bang and fizzle into infrequent, transactional and conditional sex?
  • Is she a black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinker?
  • Do you lie to your family, friends and colleagues about what goes on at home?
  • Do you find yourself making excuses to your family, friends and colleagues for her inexcusable behavior?
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  •  Do you find yourself walking on eggshells around her?
  • Does she hate your friends and family and become angry or tearful when you spend time with them?
  • Is she pathologically jealous?
  • Does she project her feelings onto you? For example, she’s yelling and raging and then accuses you of being angry.
  • Does focus solely on her emotional experience while exhibiting little or no empathy for yours?
  • Have you distanced yourself from friends and family because of your relationship?
  • Does she place you on a pedestal one day only to tear you down the next day? “I’ve never known anyone like you before. You’re so wonderful!” Next day: “You’re the devil! You’re the most selfish bastard I’ve ever met! You don’t love me!”
  • Did she change her identity after she landed you? For example, when you first met her she was a sexy, adventurous, sweet ballbuster; now, she’s afraid of her own shadow, has no outside interests and goes ballistic if she has to do anything without you.
  • Does she put you into “no win” situations in which nothing you do is good enough and you’re guaranteed to fail?
  • Does she exhibit stalker behaviors? This usually occurs during the courtship phase or when she senses you’re about to make a break for it. For instance: Calling and hanging up? Calling over and over and over until you answer the phone? Does she wait outside your home, uninvited, until you arrive? Does she show up at places she know you’ll be, also uninvited? Has she tried to get close to your friends in inappropriate ways?
If you answered “yes” to more than two of these questions, you may be involved with a female abuser. You’re not alone. They’re everywhere.

Most of the men who ended up in my therapy office were there because they were experiencing stress, depression or anxiety as a result from being in a relationship with an emotionally abusive woman. Ironically, most of the time they were shamed and pathologized into seeking counseling by these women. Never mind that most of the symptoms my male patients experienced were a direct result of being in a relationship with an abuser who most likely had one of the abusive personality disorders

If you think you may be involved with an abusive woman, good luck. They’re typically treatment resistant and they never really get any better. If you choose to stay in the relationship, I strongly recommend you educate yourself about the signs and symptoms of abuse, personality disorders and learn some basic behavioral management skills.

By: Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

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Henpecked Hank said...

Beating the crap out of these bitches is the only answer. They are all over the place. Being nice won't work and the are resistant to counseling.

Since there are not enough normal women left these days and since they are horrible role models for our kids the only real would solution is to beat the crap out of them.

Fat Bastard said...

Hank that will land you in jail. You can only contain these psychos. Feed them chocolate and duck & cover.

Keep the kids away from them as much as possible.

Anonymous said...

I gotta agree with Hank. Beat the crap out of them. Yeah I know Fat Bastard the cunt will call the cops so have a friend beat her ass while wearing a mask.

My mother is law was a bitch from hell and she got the Nancy Kerigan treatment. The guy gave her a shot with a T-ball bat right is the thigh and as she lay there he said karma bitch. Her disposition improved dramatically.

Anonymous said...

I agree with anon. Bitch slap the bitches.

Womyn said...

The very next time I read a blog, I hope that it does not disappoint me as much
as this particular one. After all, I know it was my choice to read through, but

I actually believed you'd have something useful to talk about. All I hear is a bunch of whining about something you could fix if you were not too busy looking for attention.

Bally Balldez said...

STFU you nasty cunt.