Jealous angry fat girls hate slender women nearly as much as they love food and once again they are hating on responsible and hot skinny women. Their hatred for attractive and pleasant women shows no bounds.
“Too thin” Melissa Milne—author of The Naughty Diet—helps her followers cure their body issues, one hater at a time. (Photo: Burnett Milne)
You and I haven’t met, but if we are ever introduced one day, here are some of the conclusions about me that you’ll jump to before our handshake even ends:
I’m a control freak.
I hate myself.
I’m not very bright.
I suffer from an eating disorder.
Oh, and…you’d better ease up on the handshake, or you might break me!
You’ll embrace one or more of these assumptions because the very first thing you’ll notice about me—before my green eyes, my South African accent, my smile, or my hopefully gracious greeting—is my body shape.
See, I’m skinny. Too skinny, apparently.
Before you roll your eyes and tell me how lucky I am to have this “problem,” heh-heh, hear me out: I’m one of an increasingly wide array of women who are judged for being too lean — from Taylor Swift to Kendall Jenner, Angelina Jolie and Bethenny Frankel, who recently made headlines for posting an Instagram of herself wearing her 4 year old daughter’s PJs—she’s been fighting off accusations of anorexia ever since. And earlier this year, Giuliana Rancic was slim-shamed online for supposedly using a surrogate because she didn’t want to gain pregnancy weight. The truth: She was grappling with breast cancer and taking medication that prevented her from carrying a child.
From left: Taylor, Kendall, Giuliana — just a few of the celebs who have been derided for their weight. (Photos: Getty Images)
Taking shots at a woman for being “too skinny” is the last safe bastion for haters. People who struggle with obesity still battle stereotyping, but it’s no longer socially acceptable to make well meaning concern filled
harsh, judgmental comments about a person’s heft. We’ve outgrown the idea that a woman’s being “too heavy” is entirely her fault—or even that a few extra pounds isn’t something that many men, and women, can admire.
But being too thin? Oh, that’s definitely my fault. And there’s not a whisper of social disapproval about mentioning it, either to my face, or behind my back. Not only is it socially acceptable to say hurtful things; most people who do don’t even register that their comments might have a negative impact. (“Look at you! You’re so skinny!”) Body image expertHeather Quinlan, C.S.W., explains that “shamers may think nothing of their hurtful comments — maybe because society sometimes teaches that you can never be too rich or too thin.” How could anyone feel badly about calling me “too thin”? But it’s an insult in the form of a compliment, what Quinlan calls “an underlying resentment toward people who appear to be effortlessly thin.” That’s me; The Skinny Bitch.